Alright, so today I’m gonna walk you through my experience with John Bodenhamer. It was a bit of a wild ride, let me tell ya.
It all started when I stumbled upon his name while researching NLP techniques. Seemed like a big deal in the Neuro-Linguistic Programming world. I thought, “Hey, why not try to understand what this guy’s all about and see if it can help me with my communication skills?”
First, I did the usual: Googled him. I dug up a bunch of articles, videos, and even some online courses that referenced his work. It was a bit overwhelming at first, so I decided to focus on the core concepts he seemed to be pushing: things like reframing, anchoring, and modeling.
I started with reframing. The idea is to change the way you perceive a situation to alter its emotional impact. Sounds simple, right? Well, I tried it out on some personal issues. Like, I used to get super stressed about public speaking. I’d reframe it in my mind as an opportunity to share my knowledge instead of a performance where I’d be judged. Honestly, it helped a bit. Not a miracle cure, but noticeable.
Next, I played around with anchoring. Bodenhamer talks about associating a specific feeling with a physical trigger – like touching your thumb and index finger together. So, I tried creating an anchor for feeling confident. I’d remember a time when I felt totally on top of the world, and at the peak of that feeling, I’d squeeze my fingers together. Repeated this a few times. Then, before a tough meeting, I’d trigger the anchor. Again, not a magic trick, but it gave me a little boost.
Modeling was the trickiest part. This involves identifying someone who’s excellent at something you want to improve, and then trying to replicate their behaviors and thought processes. I picked a colleague who’s a killer negotiator. I started paying close attention to how he phrased things, his body language, his overall approach. I even asked him for advice (without revealing my whole “Bodenhamer experiment,” of course). I started to incorporate some of his strategies into my own negotiations, and I gotta say, I saw some improvement.
Now, I’m no John Bodenhamer expert, and I’m definitely not selling any NLP certification courses. This was just me messing around with some of his ideas and seeing what stuck. Some stuff worked, some stuff didn’t. The key takeaway? Don’t just read about this stuff – actually try it out in real life. See what works for you.
It wasn’t a perfect transformation, but it did give me some new tools to play with. And that’s what learning’s all about, right?
Ultimately, delving into Bodenhamer’s work was a worthwhile experience. It broadened my understanding of how our minds work and how we can influence our own behaviors and emotions. I suggest you give it a shot if you’re into self-improvement and communication.
